Today, we’re going to kick off with how to face off with your feelings with God.

We’re going to be talking about why we need to do this. Why do we need to face off with our feelings? We’re going to be talking about why God first and can you trust Him? And we’re going to be talking about what this looks like to practically walk this out with God.

I’m sure that you have heard many times before that we need to heal or our feelings are not our guide. I’m sure that you know that. But throughout this season on What’s the Truth, I would love for us to also get practical. What does this look like in our everyday life?

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I want you to know that your feelings are not bad.

Your feelings do not mean that you are a sinful person.

face off with your feelings with God

Feelings alone are not sin but can feelings lead us to sin? Absolutely. But your having feelings does not make you a sinful person and it does not make you a bad person.

To get us started with this episode, I think it’s important that we understand why we need to actually face off with our feelings. We need to recognize that God is not condemning you for your feelings. He’s not shaming you in your feelings, He is not taking your pain and using it against you.

See, we face off with our feelings because we are made in His image. We can do this because of that. Genesis 1:26-29 says that we get to face off with our feelings with God because we’re made in His image. And there’s nothing that can be hidden from him.

There are four key things I want you to think about in Genesis 1:26-29 when it comes to our identity in Christ:

1. He’s given us identity, meaning being made in his image.

2. He’s given us purpose – He’s given us dominion over the earth.

3. He’s given us authority. That means that we have dominion over the earth. Purpose and authority go together. Because we have a purpose )meaning we’ve been given dominion over the earth) and we’ve been given authority to back up the purpose that we’ve been given because we have dominion.

4. He’s given us provision over supplies because it says in verse 29, “And God said, See, I have given you every herb that yields seed, which is on the face of all the earth, and every tree whose fruit yields seed to you, it shall be for food.” He’s given us provision.

In my book, Face-Off with Your Feelings, in chapter 4 I talk about identity and addressing your whole self. And that means spirit, soul, and body because our soul connects the spirit to our physical.

We transform into the image that we pursue. We want to face off with our feelings with God, because the image that we pursue, is what we will transform into. If we pursue our feelings, and not God, at the same time, we’re probably going to start to look more like the world, we’re probably going to start to feel angry and hold that hostility, or we begin to let our emotions fester. Therefore, we get to do this with God, because we are made in His image. In my book Face-Off with Your Feelings, I break down each step so you can walk this out practically.

face off with your feelings with God

Let’s move on to the second point of today’s talk is which is: Why God first and can you trust him? He’s the only one who has the answer to our pain.

I think many of us believe no matter what good or bad happens we just kind of put it all on God. And I think the most important thing that we can remember is that at the fall is when sickness and pain and the works of the flesh and fear came into the picture. It was through the choices of Adam and Eve. The fall happened and the separation came and sin entered the world. It wasn’t God’s choice. He didn’t want to punish us with sickness and disease and fear. But it happened at the fall.

In my book, I talk about how there is a reason things happen but not everything happens for a reason. I feel like we try to put a spiritual bandage on our pain. And we try to say things like, well, okay, God has a purpose for this. And God wanted this to happen so that I could give glory to God for this. Can God use bad things for good? Absolutely. Can he take the horrific pain and past you’ve been through and make good things? Absolutely. But there’s a difference in our words, and in understanding the doctrine that God is not causing bad things that happen to you for His glory, or your pain so that you can learn a lesson.

I want you to think of it kind of this way, especially now that we have a new nature in Christ, we no longer have a sinful nature. Therefore, we might have a sin habit.

But we don’t have a sinful nature.

We are seated in heavenly places, we are a royal priesthood, we are a chosen heir, we are adopted. You might not feel like a new person. You might feel like your feelings are all over the place, even though you know Jesus. But I want you to think about a robber coming into your house and you get home and the robber has made a mess. Your couch is flipped upside down. Things are, you know, all over the place.

Now, however, the robber is gone at this point. But your house is in disarray. I want you to think about that in terms of you were once a slave to sin, meaning the robber, aka the enemy used to have a stronghold on you. You were a slave to Satan. When we are not born again, we do not have the Kingdom. If we cannot see the kingdom we cannot experience the kingdom. After accepting Jesus as our Lord and Savior and confessing that we now have a new nature. Therefore the robber, Satan, has left you. Meaning, our mind now has to be renewed to the truth. It must be nurtured and cared for so that you can begin to walk in the full authority that you have on this earth, the dominion that you have.

This is important because sometimes we’re so hard on ourselves with our feelings, and we go to God, but we have to understand what really happened at the fall. We have to understand just how good God is to you, and that he’s not causing these bad things to happen or the pain that you feel or the feelings that you have to teach you these lessons.

We can face off with our feelings with God because trust hinges on the consistency of word and action.

All of God’s promises are yes and Amen. Jesus is the Word made flesh, in the beginning was the Word and the Word was made flesh. Jesus was the perfect work, and we are placed in Jesus. Until we are born again, everything is happening in our flesh. That is why we become born again.

I share so many personal stories inside of my new book face off with your feelings, especially about my own dark past, especially about where I believe that God was always teaching me lessons whether he brought me sickness to teach me a lesson, or I lived in shame for the many years that I was kind of a hustle person and a workaholic. And I was just striving to survive. I thought that when my body kind of broke down three or four years ago that that was my punishment. Now does sin have consequences? Absolutely.

God is not the author of sin. Therefore, He cannot be the author of its consequences.

I was actually able to go to him and say, God, I know that you want to see me well. I know that your Word brings reproof, it brings correction, it brings guidance, it brings conviction, but it will never bring condemnation, it will never bring shame.

Trust hinges on the consistency of word and action. I wrestled in a lot of my feelings, and I had a lot of undoing. There was a lot of of undoing being able to go to the Father, whose name is Jehovah Rapha, (which I had cute stickers made to go along with the book because that was important for me). I needed to be reminded that Jesus, that God is the healer.

You would not go to a doctor that was giving you sickness to also go to him for healing.

The first thing I want you to think about is we have to create space. We have to create space, emotionally and physically. We have to be able to read God’s word. Let us sit with Him and have a dialogue with him about who he is so that we can learn about who we are. And maybe you’re thinking my schedule is already full.

Here are some things I want you to think about when creating space to face off with your feelings with God:

What about picking up your phone at that stoplight?

What about you waiting for your doctor’s appointment? And you’re on your phone?

What about your lunch breaks, or your 15-minute breaks at work?

What about the carpool line?

I want you to think about the pockets of time that you have. They may not be big pockets of time, but pockets of time that you fill with your phone or a podcast or whatever it is so that you’re not paying attention to what you’re thinking about.

This is your five seconds to face off with your feelings. Before you react or respond, I want you to think of this question. Does this help? Or does this hinder? Because we face off our feelings with God. It allows us to slow down for a few seconds because we know in between the trigger and the response is very few seconds.

The third thing is journaling. I cannot tell you how much journaling has helped me in the healing process in really even talking with God and praying and being more clear about things. Journaling has been huge for me.

We know that God hears us. We know that we are seen by God. Our feelings are safe with God.

Therefore, whatever we write, or journal, we’re getting it out to God. We can trust God because trust hinges on the consistency of word and action. He always does what He says he’s going to do.

Let me share those three practical ways to create space to heal again.

Again, you’re going to create the space, you’re going to do your five-second face-off challenge. You’re going to journal. I’m excited to be on this journey with you and go through this season of facing off with your feelings.

Be sure to hit follow on the podcast. I love for you to pick up my new book Face Off with your Feelings. My book answers the question of when I hear women say to me, “I know that I need to renew my mind. I know that God loves me. I walk you through practically how to renew your mind and what happens in your brain. What I do is take clinical and biblical and I make it practical.

Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a rating and review as well. And I can’t wait to see you next week talking about facing off with your feelings and as always, challenge the way you think to change the way you live.

Other episodes you would enjoy:

7 Ways To Take Care Of Your Emotional Health

How Repressed Emotions Impact Our Physical Health with Kari Coody

Face Off with Your Feelings About Your Dark Past

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