It’s our brokenness that blinds our eyes from the truth and keeps us focused on our pain instead of trusting God. 

We can’t see clearly because our pain changes our perspective, and our perspective directs our path. 

When you are driving down a country road, bugs will fill up your windshield fast. If we do not take care of the bugs soon, they will start to obscure our vision and our ability to see the road clearly. However, if we try to use window washer fluid and our wipers, all that does is smear the bugs making it even harder to see. 

We must get out of the car and get cleaner to clean the bugs off one by one that has been on there for too long. It may take a longer time, too, the longer we wait to deal with the bugs on the windshield. 

Our emotions, feelings, and pain are much the same when left unchecked. Over time, ignoring them only obscures our vision and ability to see clearly. Trying to pray them away or ignoring them could only make them smear together, causing even more blindness to the truth. 

So, how do we get brokenhearted? Our sin breaks us, the sin of others breaks us, and the sin of this world breaks us.

Unchecked feelings lead to uncertainness of faith – it makes us question what we know to be true, causing us not to trust God. Instead of taking what we know to be true to our feelings. 

Broken hearts lead us to believe we are not seen, heard, or loved. (Learn how to wait in God’s promises for you when you don’t feel seen, heard, or loved.)

2 Corinthians 5:16-17, “From now on, therefore, we regard no one according to the flesh. Even though we once regarded Christ according to the flesh, we regard him thus no longer. 17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.”

Trusting God

Think about the last time you couldn’t trust God or didn’t believe God loves you – is it God you are or were mad at, or is it the sin that has caused you pain? 

If we are not careful, we will start blaming God for the pain we feel. Instead of recognizing where the pain comes from – sin.

God created us to live from our hearts then sin entered the world.

When we look at our problems, it goes back to our hearts. Our hearts consist of our spirit and our soul. Our soul is our mind, will, and emotions. (As we have discussed already.) 

God created the physical body of Adam, but he wasn’t alive until God breathed into him the breath of life (Genesis 2:7). That is when God imparted His Spirit into man, and he became a living soul. That is to say that Adam received a life-giving spirit from God, and the soul came into existence as a buffer between the spirit and body.

Therefore, our hearts are the ground, and our thoughts are the seeds. Trusting God requires fertile ground.

We focus so much on symptoms that we never address the roots that get planted in our hearts. 

Hebrews 12:14-15 says, “Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled.”

Trusting God when you’re bitter

In the Hebrew culture, any poisonous plant was called a “bitter” plant. Poison destroys, and the result of ingesting a poisonous plant would be bitter, indeed. The author of the book of Hebrews uses a “bitter root” as a metaphor for that which would bring harm to the church.

Synonyms to bitterness, distress, sorrow, sadness, anger, hatred, pain, trauma, and grief.

So, the “bitter root” in Hebrews refers to a source of evil or wickedness within the church. A root may be small and slow in its growth, but if it carries poison, it is malignant; it is dangerous.

Proverbs 4:23, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” 

The only time we want to have a guard up around our hearts is to keep the bitterness from taking root. 

Proverbs 27:19, “As water reflects the face, so one’s life reflects the heart.”

We do not see our faces. We can’t. We see the reflection of our faces. How we live, talk, and act is a mirror image of what’s in our hearts.

The most tender place we can heal is our soul, which can impact our identity and worth. Like a captain of a ship who is in command and responsible for the safety of his crew, God is the master commander of our lives who we can trust to guide us to safety in rocky waters. God is the key to fixing the leaks in our tender souls. 

Understanding our identity doesn’t happen because of a feeling but because of a Person. Knowing this can create a safe place for our emotions to land.

Our identity, how we see the Father, and how we see ourselves affect how we live and show up in this world. God is a constant Father who never leaves us in a place of lack, wants to tend to our needs, and doesn’t leave us feeling guilt, shame, or condemnation. This is why we can trust God.

Trusting in God and learn to trust God

How to grow our relationship with Christ and trust Him

Here are three questions we can consider about our identity to take us deeper into a relationship with Christ.

1. What’s causing you to go under and punching holes in your identity?

Is all of who you are becoming wrapped up in one thing? Are pieces of who you are put into compartments of your life to keep you feeling as though you have everything all together and in control? We become what we focus on most. Knowing where our identity comes from is one thing. Yet knowing we are loved, seen, and cared for by our Father in heaven is living from a different place—a heavenly place. Knowing we are loved is simple, but living loved is not easy. 

Spend the time to go to the places where you feel like you don’t have significance with Him—knowing you don’t have to heal alone—so your value will not become wrapped up in your works or feelings but in the One who saved you from yourself. You can trust God with your feelings.

A hard truth is many of us are trying to figure out who we are without ever opening our Bibles

2. What storms have changed your view of God?

Who you believe God to be will impact who you think you are. Genesis 1:27 tells us, “God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Let’s break down “His own image” from the passage. According to Google dictionary, the definition of image is “a person or thing that closely resembles another.”

You and I are the ultimate image-bearers of God

What does this have to do with our identities? Everything. If we don’t view our Father through the lens of love, then how we view ourselves will not be through the lens of love either. We are made in His likeness—in His image. 

So, the image we see in Him will be the image we see in us. This is why the importance of knowing who we believe Him to be matters.

3. Do you trust the God who calms the sea? Do you know God’s true character and nature?

We see Him in the Old Testament. However, knowing God in the New Testament under a new covenant is crucial. We are born into a new covenant because God sent His Son, Jesus, to die in our place. Through Jesus, our new covenant allows us to have direct communication and intimacy with God, which we didn’t have in the old covenant. The only way to learn about who He is, is to read His Word.

We need to be able to see the true commander of our lives for who He truly is and not through the lens of our pain or our past.

Ask Him to reveal Himself before we turn to anyone else to help us identify God’s true nature.

A ship can only begin to repair when it’s in its harbor and no longer sinking. Repairing our shipwrecked soul will involve us taking each individual passage we read in the Word of God and welding those words into the holes in our soul. 

No longer will we continue to plug the holes only for a force to come through and unplug them. We no longer have to merely survive through our pain and suffering. He comes to guide and help us through our pain and suffering. God’s Word seals the deal and begins to weld the holes shut.

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