When you let your feelings or a new diet tell you what to eat, you give your power away through emotional eating. So, when you rebel against your current way of “dieting” that is you trying to take back your power over food.
That diet said I couldn’t eat that? I’m not going to listen to that diet anymore. I’m going to go and eat all the “forbidden foods” it tells me not to eat.
For some it may seem like you are losing self-control but it could be that you are rebelling against the very diet/way of eating you are choosing for yourself. You’ll hear me say this many times, “A diet is disempowering.” Why? It takes you out of the equation. A diet takes you away from making the choices and being able to listen and to respond to your body. It also disconnects you from the main source, Jesus. You are no longer allowing God and your body to be one.
However, on the flip side of this, one of the biggest fears is that if someone is not dieting then they have no self-control over food. Do you see how this can continue to go around and around? If the way you are choosing to eat is more diet focused then that diet can become a trigger to lose control and over eat. It’s hard for many people to stop eating when they have (for a long time) under ate or restricted their food. Rebellion especially happens when others try to tell us how to eat or are constantly making comments about the food we eat or the way our body looks. This can all lead to emotional eating habits.
What we think effects our eating habits
I have seen a lot of food rebellion come from the way someone was raised.
For example: If their parents had parents who lived through the great depression, then the fear of, “there may not be enough one day” is a real emotion for them. Therefore, they may eat everything on the table and clean the plate leaving no morsel of food behind. When you come from nothing, you’ll have a fear you won’t ever have anything.
Another example would be not growing up with much food to eat at all. You make promises to yourself that you you’ll never live this way as you get older so you eat all the food in sight, in case one day you may have to live without again. You never know when that day will come so eating all the food seems to be the only way.
One last example is how people get things spoken over them about how third world countries are starving. Although this is a true and known fact, these words constantly place shame and fear over someone if they don’t eat all their food even if they are full. This can lead to over eating. Before you know it, most of the decisions you make later in life stem from experiences in your childhood that overtime have evolved and grown. (Remember, a seed produces after its own kind.) Food begins to cover up those feelings.
One way to stop rebelling is to stop restricting.
Questions to Reframe Your Thinking on Emotional Eating
The questions below are designed to get you to think beyond how you feel in the moment. They are designed so that you can begin to understand why you make the emotional eating choices you do. These questions should empower you to begin your healing journey. One of the first steps to healing is acknowledgement. You can’t change what you aren’t willing to confront.
- Why have I told myself I can’t eat this food?
- What will really happen to me if I eat this food?
- Am I afraid to eat this food?
- If so, why am I afraid to eat it?
- Do you eat because of the comments others have made to you?
- Are you really hungry when you go to eat?
- Do you really want the food you are about to eat?
- Will you find yourself feeling deprived if you don’t eat it?
- Why do I experience shame or guilt when I eat this food?
- Am I giving my power to food or living through the power of God?
Answer these questions honestly and ask God to continue to show you the way of freedom without restriction.
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P.P.S. This whole post is an excerpt from my upcoming book.