You’ll find me writing about fitness, health, emotional health, and about our bodies. Your body is valuable in every sense of the word. My hearts mission is to see women set free from the lies they believe about their body, healing, and weight loss. Today’s topic is not an exception. It’s about purity. If we are going to honor our bodies and be set free, we must address how we handle them in relation to the opposite sex.
“Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
There I was, confused by why I made the same choice again. I promised myself I wouldn’t. I promised God I wouldn’t. I found myself making the same choice over and over. What was making me make this choice again and again? Why couldn’t I stop? I know I wanted to. I didn’t realize my body was valuable. Do you know your body is valuable?
I laid there for a little while longer feeling used and as though I was a toy that he played with. I was just another game to play until another more interesting game came along. The thing that hurt me the most was why was I letting him do this to me over and over again? He said he cared and then the next minute I felt like I was being manipulated into giving my body over again. Why was I letting this happen?
I was stuck in my own bad nightmare that kept happening over and over again. How could I escape this and how could I get out of it. I mean, I really liked him, didn’t I?
I came to the conclusion he didn’t value me because I didn’t value me.
I didn’t think my body & soul was worth the wait. I set a standard and expectation in the relationship that at any time he could have what he wanted. It didn’t occur to me that sex was anything other than an enjoyable thing two people do together. Everyone did it. It’s the norm. If you don’t then that’s just weird.
I gave my body & soul over at a very young age. It continued for 13 years until one day I awakened with the cold hard truth. Sex is a form of worship between a husband and wife. Now, I am not here to judge anyone so before you go pointing a finger, please refrain yourself.
Oftentimes sex is confused with love.
If he has sex with me then he must love me. He must really care. This is it. He could be my husband because he had sex with me. Right? I thought all of those things before but they are far from the truth.
Truth is, if he loves you he will wait for you and with you. Truth is, if he loves you, you’ll experience love and the feelings of love outside of physical touch. Truth is, if he loves you he will do anything to protect you and not harm you.
There are many of you who have gone from pain to pain and relationship to relationship wondering why it’s so hard to let go of it all. Every time you give your body away you also give away a piece of your soul and you also get a piece of theirs. Whether good or evil you get a piece of it. You became more connected on deeper level than you could ever imagine. Ever wonder why you can’t get over them? It’s because doors were opened that need to be closed that shouldn’t have been opened in the first place.
The Lord knows I needed help closing doors. Years and years of pain and heartache kept building up and spewing into every other area of my life. When I decided to become pure again and dedicate my body the Lord, that was just the beginning, but it was the right choice to make over and over again.
People viewed me differently. Men viewed me differently when they knew it wasn’t going to happen before marriage. I started to attract the kind of person I wanted to date because deep within myself I became who I wanted to date.
You see, sex was created by God. He wants us to enjoy it, have fun with it, worship Him with our bodies in the context of husband and wife. So much happens spiritually when sex is involved which is why it is meant for husband and wife. Don’t let someone convince you that saving yourself is stupid and that you should be test driving the car before you buy it. If God created it, I’m sure the car will drive just fine after you buy it.
You are worth the wait and they are worth the wait. Your body is valuable.
It doesn’t matter if you are single, engaged, or divorced in your 40’s. You can begin the healing process to claim back your pureness with God. It is the decision, the choice, to know that you are valuable and your body is valuable.
You are worthy of being pursued with genuine love.
If you need more encouragement, pick up my book A Worthy Wife. It equips single and married women on how to communicate and create connection in a godly relationship. It is also about healing from your past mistakes with your body and relationships.
Head to aworthywifebook.com to get your copy!
Rooting for you,