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Dealing with our emotions biblically is not about bypassing what someone is going through but rather helping them take the truth and apply it to their certain situation.
If your anger is heightened and I tell you to calm down, chances are you will not calm down but only be more frustrated that I am telling you to calm down over something you are experiencing deep anger with.
Instead, if I were to help you breathe and walk with you, chances are your anger would lessen (versus me just telling you what to do—I would show you how to do it).
By the way, what if I told you your feelings aren’t inherently bad or sinful? You don’t need to fear or suppress them. They can be a guide. If you’re interested, I have a free 3-day study on living by faith while processing emotions. Check it out here!
What Does the Bible Say About Emotions
Emotions are not weaknesses to hide or problems to fix—they are gifts from God. The Bible is filled with stories of real people expressing real feelings: joy, anger, grief, fear, and everything in between. God created emotions, and He cares deeply about how we experience and express them.
1. Emotions Are God-Given
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens… a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” — Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4 (NIV)
The Bible reminds us that emotions have their place in our lives. Joy and sorrow both serve a purpose in shaping our hearts.
Friendly encouragement: Don’t shame yourself for feeling deeply. God doesn’t. He welcomes every emotion and invites you to bring it to Him.
2. Jesus Felt Emotions, Too
“Jesus wept.” — John 11:35 (NIV)
In the shortest verse of the Bible, we see the fullness of Jesus’ humanity. He didn’t hide His tears. He allowed Himself to grieve, to feel compassion, to be moved by love and even anger (Mark 3:5).
Friendly encouragement: If Jesus expressed emotion, so can you. You are never too much or too emotional for God.
3. We’re Called to Respond to Emotions with Wisdom
“Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.” — Proverbs 29:11 (NIV)
The Bible doesn’t say “don’t feel anger.” It teaches us not to let anger lead us into sin. We’re called to respond with self-control and discernment, even when emotions feel intense.
Friendly encouragement: You can feel strong emotions and still respond with strength. God can help you pause, pray, and process in healthy ways.
4. God Cares About Your Emotional Health
“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” — 1 Peter 5:7 (NIV)
God doesn’t expect perfection—He invites honesty. He wants us to come to Him with our fears, stress, and sadness.
You don’t have to carry it all alone. God isn’t distant from your emotions—He meets you in them. Dealing with our emotions in a biblical way doesn’t mean we are ignoring what is happening or using toxic positivity to make them smaller.
How People in the Bible Deal with Emotions
Emotions are feelings we experience in response to events around us. They include happiness, sadness, anger, fear, surprise, and disgust. When we feel emotions, our bodies react with changes like a faster heartbeat or tense muscles. These feelings can also show in our behavior, like smiling when we’re happy or frowning when we’re upset. Emotions help us handle situations, communicate with others, and make decisions. They’re a natural part of being human.
The Bible is full of emotional moments—from David’s deep sorrow in the Psalms to Jesus’ tears at Lazarus’ tomb. God didn’t leave emotions out of Scripture. Instead, He uses them to reveal His heart and connect with ours.
We see anger (Moses), fear (Elijah), joy (Mary), grief (Job), and compassion (Jesus). These examples remind us that emotions aren’t sinful—they’re human. What matters is how we respond to them.
Reading my book Face Off with Your Feelings is a great way to start learning about emotions and feelings.
Befriending Your Emotions Versus Denying Them
I think, as believers, we are known for spiritually bypassing people in the name of Jesus and calling it holy. Anything less than joy, and the person experiencing feelings should know better. This leaves the person feeling unheard and stuck in their emotion (which in turn gets stuck in their body).
In layman’s terms, spiritual bypassing is using our faith to disregard our real human experiences. We use scriptures and false humility to act as though everything is okay or that we should be okay. Others often do this to us by telling us to move on, God has better things for us, and God is good. All of this is true, but it can easily bypass the reality of what is happening within us. It looks like: Overemphasizing the positive and avoiding the negative.
Dealing with emotions biblically allows the truth to be the foundation and healing while leading them in love to reality. When our emotions are big or heightened, all sense of reality disappears, and survival kicks in.
Our emotions take over, and our reasoning shuts down.
The term “amygdala hijacking” was first used by psychologist Daniel Goleman in his 1995 book, “Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ,” to refer to an immediate and intense emotional reaction that’s out of proportion to the situation. In other words, it’s when someone seriously overreacts to something or someone.
Our amygdala, created by God, is designed to respond swiftly to a threat.
Helping someone deal with emotions biblically keeps them rooted in truth and love but also not running away from or hiding what’s happening inside them. Whatever they are going through inside may or may not make sense to us.
However, we have not experienced what they have, so their triggers and reactions will differ. (This is another reason each person we come in contact with needs to be loved into truth, or we are no different from the world. We don’t water down the word. But we meet them where they are and take them with us instead of leaving them down.)
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What Does the Bible Say About Emotions and Feelings
There must be a healthy balance of recognizing where we are emotionally without submitting to our emotions.
Often, we live in the extreme of either/or. I am either sad or I am joyful. We excuse the reality that two can coexist, forcing us to hide a part of ourselves because we feel we should know better. To know ourselves better isn’t to say we are making much of ourselves. It recognizes how God designed us, wired us, and created us to think—aka being human.
A healthy way to begin to deal with our emotions biblically is to start by saying things such as, “I am experiencing feelings of sadness right now.” Instead of saying, “I am sad.” One recognizes what we are experiencing, while the other labels it as an identity.
I feel like one is more objective while the other is taking ownership. The Bible never says we won’t have emotions or feelings. However, it tells us how to control, manage, and care for them.
Learning about spirit, soul, and body helps us to understand how God created our bodies to function and how our bodies also operate as one unit. This also gives us the ability to deal with our emotions biblically. (Read more extensively about spirit, soul, and body in my book Face Off with Your Feelings.)
One example is in Ephesians 4:26-27. It says, “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.”
This scripture tells us a few things:
- Anger is an emotion. Paul doesn’t say don’t have anger.
- Paul is telling us unmanaged anger can lead us to sin.
- Paul gives a timeline but also a deadline to say, “Don’t let your anger go unresolved.”
- Harboring anger can give place to the devil.
5 Step Process to Dealing with Your Emotions
I never knew how to communicate well. Most of the communication I saw was non-existent, high yelling voices, or conversation that led to separation.
I believe there is beauty in learning how to communicate well with others and learning how and when our bodies communicate with us. Dealing with our emotions biblically requires us to become aware of our thoughts and then integrate the word of God.
The more we are in tune with the Father and our soul (thought life/mind), the more we can control the reaction.
1. Take a moment to acknowledge anything that doesn’t feel quite right.
2. Identify what it is that doesn’t feel right. Name it and call it out so that you can begin to move through it.
3. You can accept what you are experiencing without it becoming a part of your identity.
4. Pay attention to what doesn’t feel right and what it is communicating with you. Why does it not feel right? Think of the root cause.
5. Have a conversation with God, trusted friends and family, or professional assistance.
Through our identity in Christ, we have the strength and power to process our emotions, put them into obedience to Christ, and deal with emotions biblically.
Bible Verses for Controlling Emotions
Emotions aren’t bad—they’re part of how God made us. But when they control us, instead of us bringing them to God, they can lead to hurtful words, anxious thoughts, or regrettable actions. The good news? Scripture has a lot to say about how to manage our emotions in a healthy, God-honoring way.
Whether you’re battling anger, anxiety, fear, or sadness, these Bible verses can help you anchor your heart and mind in truth.
1. When You’re Feeling Angry
“Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.” — Ephesians 4:26 (ESV)
Anger itself isn’t a sin, but letting it fester or act out in destructive ways is. God invites us to pause, pray, and seek His wisdom before responding.
Friendly encouragement: It’s okay to feel angry. But don’t unpack and live there. Let God guide your next step.
2. When Anxiety Is Taking Over
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” — Philippians 4:6 (NIV)
God doesn’t expect us to push anxiety down or pretend it’s not there. He tells us to bring it to Him, with thanksgiving and trust.
Friendly encouragement: When anxiety rises, take a deep breath and talk to God like you would a friend. He’s not frustrated with you—He’s ready to listen.
3. When You Feel Overwhelmed or Discouraged
“Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God.” — Psalm 42:5 (NIV)
Even the psalmists wrestled with overwhelming emotions. But they always circled back to hope—a hope rooted in God’s goodness, not their circumstances.
Friendly encouragement: Feeling discouraged doesn’t make you faithless. It makes you human. Let your sadness lead you to a Savior who understands.
4. When You’re Struggling With Self-Control
“A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls.” — Proverbs 25:28 (NLT)
God gives us the fruit of the Spirit, including self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). We don’t have to rely on willpower alone.
Friendly encouragement: You may feel out of control, but you’re not beyond God’s help. His Spirit gives strength for every moment.
I really like this post. “Become aware of our thoughts and then integrate the word of God”—I like how you include the Bible and God, as well as controlling our own emotions and being aware of our own thoughts. This is more than self-help that is taught so often in psychological Circles and psychotherapy. It has to include God.
Yes and amen!
I do those steps but for Step 5 I will go into the bible to find scripture that will help me find my way and to give clarity to the situation. Then meditate on those words to have them with me. Thanks for this article. I’m glad there are others who recognize that there’s an emotional need to address emotions in a healthy way that can still glorify God!
Currently really understanding this process. I’m glad that there are children of God renewing their minds and transitioning from perishable to imperishable images of God💙🤍🙌🏽🙏🏽
Amen!